Tell Us Your Story: Christian Turner

Student tells his story of adoption and how it has shaped his life in many ways. Photo by Gabriella Nutile/Spectrum.

Student tells his story of adoption and how it has shaped his life in many ways. Photo by Gabriella Nutile/Spectrum.

By Gabriella Nutile

Co-Copy Editor & Features Editor

Many children at the age of three have simple worries such as trying to dress or feed themselves without their parent’s assistance. But, for three-year-old Christian Turner, his worry was much different and greater—he was trying to find a home.

Turner is originally from the small European country of Moldova and was put up for adoption after he was born. He spent the first three years of his life in an orphanage, which he recalls as being a very close-knitted kind of atmosphere.

“The orphanage I was at in Moldova wasn’t a very dark, moody one. Everyone there had their part and did what they had to do, while also helping each other out every day that we were in there. It made the orphanage very family-oriented when none of us really had an actual family,” said Turner.

However, Turner said he did not have the best nutrition at the orphanage due to the limited food and resources.

“They would put out a basket of bread for all of the kids to eat, and I remember trying to take a bite out of as many pieces of bread as possible to claim it as mine so I wouldn’t lose it and have more food. I remember I was also below the third percentile for my height and weight, so when I ended up coming to America I had to take a bunch of vitamins and boost my immune system because I was pretty weak and more susceptible to diseases,” said Turner.

A married couple from Norwalk, Conn. ultimately adopted Turner at the age of three-and-a-half. He currently still lives with them, but he brought up that he struggled internally while growing up on trying to find out who he really was as a person.

“When I was adopted, I tried the personality of my new adopted parents because I didn’t know my own personality or the personality of my birth parents, so I wanted to be just like them. Then I grew up finding myself not having the same personality or mannerisms as my adopted parents, so I struggled with trying to be like them but also blossom as my own individual.”

Turner may be living in the United States now, but he still feels a deep connection to his homeland.

“I’m very patriotic for my country Moldova because I realized not many people know about it and if there is anyway to advocate for it, I will. I want people to start recognizing Moldova more and be on the map more, and not just be some little side-note country that I feel like it is right now.”

Although Turner faced some struggles that may have been different from the average child, he has also learned a lot from this unique experience.

“Being adopted, I think, taught me and forced me to be very open to new things, which I think is a huge bonus. I feel as though many people don’t listen enough and can be very single-minded, and I believe that you have to have an open mind in order to be a happy person.”

Presently, Turner is a sophomore at Sacred Heart University and is a member of the Division I Men’s Track & Field team, which he said provided him with some friendships that he thinks will last a lifetime.

“I’m thankful to be on the team and have formed the strong friendships I have through this sport,” said Turner.

But for what Turner is most grateful for? Well, that would be his birth mother’s decision to keep him and put him up for adoption rather than the fatal alternative.

“I’m sure it would have been much easier for my birth mom to have aborted me rather than go through the stress that she put on her body with the pregnancy and also on herself by choosing to put me up for adoption. But, because she chose life for me, I have experienced some amazing opportunities and met some incredible people, such as my adopted parents. For that, I’m very appreciative of my birth mother giving me the gift of life,” said Turner.


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